Things to do BEFORE
a violent incident
- Call a domestic violence agency and speak to an advocate for information, support, and help with your
Safey Plan.
- Tell someone that you can trust about what is going on (a friend, relative, or coworker).
- Teach your children how to call
911 or to make a collect call to an emergency contact.
- Make up a code word or signal to use with your children, family, friends, and
or neighbors when you need
them to call the police.
- Plan and practice an escape route out of the home for yourself and/or children.
- Also plan and practice an
escape plan specifically for your children in case you’re not able to help them.
- Remove sharp objects and weapons from sight.
- Keep
a telephone in a room that locks from the inside. If possible, keep a cell phone in your pocket or in an accessible
hiding place; pre-program 911 or the number of a safe friend or relative into the directory.
- Arrange in advance for a safe place to
go (this must somewhere that your partner does not know about) even
if you don’t think you’ll have to leave.
- Pack an emergency bag for yourself and your children to use if you need to leave quickly
(the bag should be hidden or kept safe by a person you trust and can get
to in a hurry).
- Make
copies of your important documents (keep one copy in the bag and give other copies to trusted friends and
relatives).
- Make an extra
set of important keys (car, house, mailbox, etc.).
- If an argument seems unavoidable, try to have it in a room or area that has access
to an exit and not in a bathroom, kitchen, or anywhere near weapons.
- Use your instincts and judgment. You have the right to
protect yourself until you are out of danger.
- Always remember: You do not deserve to be hit, threatened or controlled!
Safety Plan Step 1:
Remember, if you print a copy of this material, KEEP IT IN A SAFE PLACE and away from your abusive partner.
