What do I do if someone I know is
in an abusive relationship?
- Call a domestic violence advocate for information, support, referrals, or advice.
- Listen and be supportive. Stay away from judgmental comments (i.e. “Why don't you just leave?”).
- Learn more about domestic violence and offer helpful information such as hotline numbers for local DV agencies.
- Keep any information that is shared with you confidential so you establish a network of trust.
- Call the police in case of an emergency or if you witness or hear any abuse ... this may save her life!
- Offer to safekeep important documents in case of an emergency (i.e. birth certificates, social security cards, etc.).
- Keep a record of all your interactions; this may eventually be helpful in court (i.e. dates, what happened, who was involved, etc.).
- Listen and be supportive. Believe your friend is telling the truth. This is perhaps the most important thing you can do for a victim of domestic violence.